It is a challenging task to describe a Nigerian woman without receiving sharp instantaneous reactions from the female folks. My friend, Elen, is a typical example. She represents hundreds of Nigerian female faces staring down at me daring me to say something offensive. As I nervously proceed, I am reminded of aggressive nature of Nigerian women. They are anextremely expensive breed too. Their emotions are worn distinctly on their faces and they are never too shy to let you know exactly what they think or feel.
An argument with a Nigerian woman is a memorable experience. With stubborn frown and rapid tongue movements, they are capable of cutting the proudest man down to size, regardless of the scene, be it wedding or a funeral programme. They are extremely opinionated and are ready to argue their cause in a single volatile breath. Strong willed and with an ambitious mind set, they refuse any man taking advantage of them.
A Nigerian woman is a woman that you would rather have on your side than against you. At the same time, you would agree with me that Nigerian women are spontaneous, fun loving, understanding, caring, hardworking, persistent, enduring, beautiful and above all God-fearing. As a matter of fact, there is no single adjectival word that can adequately describe a Nigerian woman.
A friend of mine once said that women are created by God to please the eyes and trouble the mind. In my opinion, women, particularly Nigerian women are not just one of a kind, but they are God’s gift to man. They are sometimes a much softer approach in handling them; the power of words gets deep into their sensitive hearts, because they hold on so dearly to what other people think or say about them. They love fun and spontaneous activities that involve adventure and entertainment.
I am sorry to say that when it comes to men, societies seem to have the wrong idea about relationship. A Nigerian woman primarily wants a man who has status in the society. Money and the things it brings are very much at the centre of their romantic mindset; the bigger the gifts, the more love they show to their partners. On the other hand, some Nigerian women have a much clearer perspective on the internal attributes of love, but they often settle for less in the short term, hanging on to the hope that over time the things they don’t like will somehow change for the better.
It’s true that it’s much easier to notice the negative attributes of people and pay no attention to whatever positivity lies within, but often much can be learnt when we are able to see things for what they really are. Nigerian women need to learn that the extent of their love cannot be based on the size of pay checks. They need to embrace a bit of softness because patience is indeed a virtue.
Describing a woman of any culture, particularly a Nigerian woman is a difficult task simply because Nigerian women are many things in one. For the records, I must emphasis that my perceptions are limited to my own experience of Nigerian women. I have met many exceptions to the general rule, and if you are reading this right now and you are a woman, and you know who I am, then you are most certainly that exception.
Nigeria regardless of her social, political cultural and religious leaning is a blessed nation. It is also true that Nigeria in spite of her present predicaments ranging from insecurity vis-a-vis bomb blasts, unemployment, sorry state of power generations and the likes still remains strong and undaunted.
However, many critics hold the view that the nation is a dumping ground for virtually everything, a nation where anything sells and everything goes. As a matter of fact, some people have often opined that if your product, service or idea doesn’t sell in Nigeria, then it will never sell any where else in the world.
This assertion is further re-echoed in the way and manner Nigerians crave, rush and pursue after some of the innovations being imported into the country. One of such innovations currently blowing across the country like a whirlwind and making Nigerians particularly the youths go gaga is a social media, rspecially ‘whatsaap’.
Social media was founded in 2009 by Brian Acton and Jan Koum, both former employees of yahoo. Whatsaap is a mobile messenger that allows or provides you with a platform to communicate with your friends. It is a network of millions of people worldwide where you can set up your profile, meet new people, and talk to friends, share files and pictures. You can even search friends on whatsaap via the phone number on your phone, and you can also use it to chat with your facebook friends. More so, there are “chat rooms” you can explore.
Nevertheless, Nigerians in their queer attitude have taken whatsaap too far. In the school environment for instance, it is now a common practice to see students chatting with their friends on whatsaapp while lecture are going on. And such discussions are often times baseless, frivolous and add no value to their life. Yet, when the same student falls, he/she turns around and begins to trade blames, pointing accusing fingers to the lecturer for his/her ordeal.
The evil of this whatsaap social media has gradually crept into the household of God! A situation where the “Brothers and Sisters in Christ” are chatting on whatsaap in church while the sermon is going on does not speak well of us. I have always maintained that attending church services on Sundays or going for Juma’at prayers on Fridays doesn’t necessarily guarantee one’s place in eternity. Chatting on whatsaap in church is a demonstration of lack of reverence for God and a flagrant disrespect for His house.
Significantly too, whatsaap media has further promoted immorality amongst youths. This is especially true in the offensive, corrupt and the way foul languages are used with impunity during chatting. The whatsaap is now used as a platform for promoting all sorts of social vices and misdemeanors such as sex, homosexualism, lesbianism, masturbation and sharing of immoral and nude pictures. This, to say the least, is a lamentable phenomenon which if not checked portends greater danger for the coming generation.
To avert further mayhem, users of whatsaap should explore the opportunities inherent in it for positive ventures. For instance, it can be a platform to market one’s lofty ideas, skills and talents to the world. Students also should spend more of their time on self-development, study and preparation so as to successfully finish their schools with their shoulders rather than wasting their precious times on the social media.
Matthew is a HND11 student of Mass Communication at Federal Polytechnic, Bida, Niger State