Yes, what is bad about sex before marriage; that is the question most people tend to ask when sex and sexuality are being discussed. Sex is everywhere. It permeates television shows, the internet, and magazines. Even children’s movies often have thinly veiled sexual overtones.
As it were, sex is alien to children, and the youths, but nowadays, underage children know sex more than even adults.
Today, society’s carefree thinking about sex out of wedlock is simple, “Why not?” school administrators build sexual education programmes around this mentality, believing that “most are doing it anyway”.
However, in a study by the Centres for Disease Control and Prevention, CDC, almost 50 percent of high school students in 40 American states were said to be sexually active.
The question is, is this a bad thing? Most say no. To support this position, some cite the well-documented health benefits of being sexually active. According to WebMD, sex relieves stress, boosts one’s immune system, burns calories, improves heart health, and can reduce the risk of certain cancers. It can even improve the quality of sleep.
But does sex belong only in a marriage relationship? What is wrong with reaping all the physical benefits of sex outside of wedlock so long as one is “smart” about it?.
Undoubtedly, there are dangers for the sexually active person: transmission of diseases, unwanted pregnancies, and potential emotional scarring from a promiscuous lifestyle of multiple partners.
Nonetheless, supposed experts assert that if you practice “safe sex”, the benefits could outweigh the negatives.
Obviously, people who live with reckless abandon getting drunk and waking up not knowing what they did with whomever the night before are into risky venture. But upon superficial examination, it seems that given the health advantages, using contraceptives wisely, and having
only one sexual partner at a time means there is little downside to pre-marital sex.
Sex before pleasure; a Pamphlet created by the United Kingdom’s National Health Service, NHS, illustrates what Western society generally thinks of sexual activity out of wedlock. The booklet, fittingly titled pleasure, attempts to foster frank discussions between adults and teens about sex, and the enjoyment it can bring.
The publication was an effort in the UK where teenage pregnancies are rampant to meet young people “where they are” and talk openly about sex. Educators hope to arm teens with enough information to dispel the mystery of sex so they can “decide when they are ready” to lose their virginity. Accordingly, it glibly espouses the benefits of sex through feel-good slogans.
Essentially, educators have concluded they are no longer able to stop children from having sex. The best they can hope to do is to teach them about it. The thinking goes that we are sexual creatures with an innate sex drive. This is natural, so why not?
Succinctly, churches of professing Christianity encourages young people not to be intimate before marriage(in biblical terms, fornication) because it promotes promiscuity, can lead to emotional scarring, may result in unwanted pregnancies and most importantly, tarnishes the sanctity of marriage.
The negative effects of premarital sex do not stop with couples. Even the “safest” sex can result in unintended pregnancies, birth control works only most of the time. This can lead to the tragic decision to end the unborn child’s life through abortion, something a woman will carry for the rest of her life.
If the couple decides to go ahead with the pregnancies, children of unmarried parents are often susceptible to a host of physical and emotional problems. Men and women who are products of broken homes often have children out of wedlock as well, which leads to a vicious, multi-generational cycle of unhappiness.
While there are many documented risks associated with premarital intercourse, research has proven that sex within a marriage has tremendous benefits. One is in a decreased likelihood of divorce; a healthy, happy marital relationship produces similar relationships in the lives of children who come from them.
In short, happy couples produce happy children. In addition, an attentive parental unit can keep kids from risky sexual behaviours as sex education begins at home. In particular, a loving father’s good example and guidance prove the best way to positively influence a child’s sexual behaviour. It is a parent’s job to proactively teach children about sex.
Above all, premarital sex is not God’s formula for a successful
marriage. It affects individuals in that it opens the door to lifelong consequences. It also removes the God-ordained training element of temperance and character building from the early relationship.
Also, premarital sex does not allow a man to develop the determination to be responsible for his role as head of the household and eventually a father who will responsibly teach his children the proper purpose of sex.
It equally weakens the God-given family unit, which ultimately deteriorates society as a whole. God’s way of life brings tremendous blessings, yet sex before marriage is not part of this.